Guilt, shame and fear are killers. Guilt dwarfs you, shame grinds you to pieces and fear blows you out of existence.
Fear is OK when it protects you from real danger.
It’s not OK when it prevents you from asking somebody out on a date. It’s not OK when it robs you of the chance to win by not letting you even try.
It’s not OK when you lose many opportunities in life because of it.
Bad news is that you can’t ever get rid of fear. It’s a feeling built into our system. Everyone experiences it in some form or the other from time to time.
Good news is you don’t have to get rid of it. You can let it stay and do its duty, which is to warn you of potential dangers.
Great news is you get to decide whether to listen to your fears or not. You get to decide what action to take.
And the best action to take is to feel the fear (you can’t avoid it) and then go ahead and do the very thing you fear!
Yes, feel the fear and do it anyway.
How to Overcome Fear of Public Speaking
1. Understanding the cause of the fear.
The first step in getting rid of your fear of speaking in public is to find out why it’s a fear in the first place. The main reason is the fear of being embarrassed. This includes being laughed at, messing up, or doing anything foolish and having the audience judge you. Do you get nervous when you are in a room by yourself? Probably not. It’s only when there are other people, people who might judge you or think badly of you, that causes you to get nervous usually.